Behavioral RNA™️ In Terms of Relationships
Relationships of any kind will always be complicated on some level. They can be less complex if one understands Behavioral RNA™️ for themselves. In order to understand order, it is paramount to understand things in terms of context first (and always), analogy second, and third but most importantly, observation.
Context, in my view, is the only way to achieve any sort of comprehension whether by doing, listening, or simply visually. I personally subscribe to all three. I believe that people in general terms are not one or the other but all three depending on the context of their environment. To me, referencing specific environments that are relatable in general terms helps others to not only learn but learn nuance that cannot be given with a black and white directive.
In my analogy about relationships, I will be referencing the sport of Formula 1. I will do so because I understand F1 best of all the sports outside of hockey. I grew up a fanatic of racing and understanding how car engines work. My dad bought me a gigantic indoor race car track that he put in my room when I was 2 years old. We would race different cars on the track together all the time. Other than him pulling me to school in my favorite sled, this was my favorite thing to do. With the engineering savvy of my Mom combined with the dynamic teachings of my Dad, racing cars always gave me a durable competitive advantage in terms of understanding relationships as a whole. In concept, Formula 1 has three sides to its story:
1) the driver;
2) the constructor*; and
3) the winner.
*For any readers who are unfamiliar with Formula 1, “constructors” are the entities responsible for developing and constructing F1 race cars.
The three sides are equally important because without one you don’t have the other. In relationships, without understanding who the driver is as well as the constructor, you can never gain the win in the relationship. All categories work hand in hand. This is why I love the sport. While I am an individual, I work best with a team. Formula 1 allows both the individual and the team to occur in harmony, not opposition. Complete individual performance is necessary alongside a collaborative effort to achieve the win. Each has a unique and complete capability that provides mutual propulsion toward success. Conversely, most other sports are either individual sports or team sports. Individual sports traditionally place all the emphasis on a single competitor. Team sports may have certain “star” players, and each member of the team certainly has a realm of responsibility, but being a *part* of the whole generally takes precedence. Rarely are they both, depending equally on each category.
I believe this analogy speaks to the complex relationship humans have to each other.
While people will always need people, people are very difficult in general terms. That is because of the common denominator that most people lack awareness of self and body. Whether it’s a top-performing car or an instrument, if they are not tuned they do not play optimally. The same applies to individuals. Understanding one’s Behavioral RNA™️ allows one to “play” optimally in the relationship with others and with oneself. Playing optimally in conjunction with the person you are in a relationship with — whether it be a friend, business partner, collaborator, and/or spouse — is the only way to design the win everyone in this life wants and needs.
I brought this unique capability and way of looking at things when it comes to analogizing to the instructors that teach for my guitar store. It’s how I was able to establish a framework and instruct the instructors to play their instruments in an accessible way. That, in turn, allowed them to teach students at varying skill levels with equal effectiveness. Hence, the driver (the guitar teacher) and the constructor (me) achieved the win (successful student outcomes).
Both “instruments” must be in tune (the guitar and the piano, the driver and the constructor, friends, spouses…) in order to be concordant. This is why we all need people. Without serving people as well as being vulnerable enough to allow someone to serve you, there is no possibility for the win. The identification that comes along with the observation of one’s Behavioral RNA™️ is, in my opinion, a notable way to unlock a relationship’s full potential on both sides.
Are there specific individuals in your life that you would like to win with — not win against?
