Nothing is just one thing.
It’s easy to look at an aspect of ourselves that has caused problems/pain and deeply dislike it (which, in some individuals’ cases, can digress into hatred). We can look at that part, blame it for all our problems and wish it didn’t exist without realizing that, on some level, that means wishing that we didn’t exist. That is a slippery slope to self-loathing and self-defeat. Getting into that mind spiral can keep you so focused on that problematic aspect of your thinking/behavior that you make it your entire identity. Many do so without realizing that not only is there more to you than that one part, but even that one part has multiple facets. The aspect of your personality that gets you into trouble could also be the thing that saves you. For example, being a bit crazy can make you impulsive, reckless, and take unnecessary risks, but it can also make you willing to take productive risks that others won’t which lets you ultimately achieve more than others can imagine. Being stubborn can cause conflict and stagnation, but it can equally be the trait that keeps you going when others give up. Being flighty can make you seem out of touch and even stupid at times, but it’s also a form of imagination that allows for creative expression and the appreciation of beauty that others cannot necessarily see. Having a big ego can wreck just about every part of your life and make you selfish and difficult to be around, but it can also be the thing that drives you and gives you the audacity to reach and work for big goals and big dreams. Very few things in this life are just one thing. Our Behavioral RNA™️ fixes our tendencies and baseline mental approaches, but it is our environment and culture that largely directs our value assignments on those traits and whether we deem ourselves “bad” or “good” for having them. The reality is that no trait is inherently bad or good. It’s all relative to how you apply it. If you can observe yourself (possibly with the assistance of someone who knows you well and cares about you) you can start to tease out the pros and cons of every trait. When you’ve completed that self-study, you then have the tools to begin focusing on the expressions of your traits you want to strengthen and those you can work on/with to minimize the harm they do to you/others. I call this process directionalization.
Whether it’s design thinking in the corporate world and/or numerology and astrology in the spiritual world, it is not only important to take all of it with a grain of salt but use that pinch of salt to make things taste better in life (like in food). A pinch of salt brings out food’s amazing flavor. Likewise, a spectrum of new innovative personality metrics — from astrology to numerology to psychology — are seasonings on the base of Behavioral RNA™️ that when used in measure only make things better. The key is to know ourselves first. When we do that, we can then explore and utilize external frameworks according to our unique Behavioral RNA™️ that can enhance the taste of life we all have the opportunity to digest by simply being alive.
